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“What Does It Take So That Changes Ultimately Bring About Positive Effects?”
I still remember once, when as an examiner for Cambridge exams, I asked the same question to all the candidates of that day: “How do you like changes?” I literally counted their replies. And …
Within a period of only two years, I had to face some major changes in my life. After some deliberation and thinking I decided to embrace them all, go with the flow and see what happens.
Basically I had to leave the country where I spent 36 years of my life, had an extremely safe job with the government, all my friends, my family, my own appartment. In two words: my life and - my comfort zone.
The only thing that I knew was that somehow I had to do it. Because I didn’t have any previous experience about how to cope with changes like this, nor did I have any friends who had done something like that before, I was a bit scared. I could actually use a manual, but none available.
The fact is that Slovenia is a marvellous place. Forbes, a leading American publishing and media company and its Forbes magazine, well-known for various kinds of lists, has recently listed Ljubljana as N. 5 in its “Europe’s Most Idyllic Places To Live” (www.forbes.com).
In comparison to some other cities worldwide, Ljubljana, the Slovenia’s capital is a rather calm, tranquil place, where yin and yang seem to have found just the right equilibrium. For me it’s The Place to live.
Furthermore, it had all the rest: my family, my (best) friends, my boring and uninspiring job, which made me feel utterly safe, my appartment, which once paid off, made a rather cosy living for a single person.
But, let’s say back then I was as smart as Forbes today, which listed a small “paesino” (in Italian: a small village) in Chianti, called Gaiole in Chianti, in the heart of Tuscany as N. 1. No, this is not where I moved, but I did move to Tuscany, more precisely to Florence, its capital, which does not have to be described in detail.
In two years, therefore, I changed my life completely. I married to a foreigner, moved to another country, learnt a new language, set up a business in Italy and in Slovenia, where I would go to run workshops. And had a baby. Now … Don’t tell me I can’t manage change!
To go back a little, to this Cambridge exam … I still remember I asked the same question to all the candidates of that day: “How do you like changes?” I counted their replies. Only one replied he looked forward to them, but probably only because he thought he would be graded better. All the rest shared the opinion of: “Not much, really!”
The fact is that we don’t like them. The changes. They cause stress, bad mood, anxiety, insecurity. What is also true is that we can’t just sit around and wait that the things are going to work out somehow. We have to take action. We have a choice. To get better, feel more energized, earn more, learn something new, become a different person, lose those few pounds, get a better job, be promoted, fall in love. Fall in love with LIFE.
At the beginning, however, after you’ve decided to set off to an untrodden path, there will be some initial challenges, but each change, ultimately, brings about positive effects. It’s like a J curve; after you’ve hit the low, it only goes upwards. You’ve only got to stick it through.
Feel free to watch the video below, playing Will Smith, who speaks about the same thing!
Now … I have already been there and have done that. It’s your turn. And if you need some online personal or professional guidance with NLP coaching methods, please, click here or simply send me an e-mail on: office@mojcazirovnik.com and we’ll go from there.
The conclusion? If you eat carrots every Monday, why suddeny changing them with sushi. Well … WHY THE HELL NOT?
